Theme 1: Our parents made the ultimate sacrifice for their children.
Two problems I have with this statement; first problem is about the boundaries between the intergenerational family plan and children’s autonomy over their life.
I’m well aware that many sacrifices that these parents have made could include immigrating to a new country, encountering a racist culture, not having their education recognized within society and thus having to take a lower class job. These are incredibly difficult situations to be in. It is unfortunate that we live in a society that forces people into these difficult choices. It is important to respect, honor and be grateful for these choices. To make sure these life gambles work, the effort must be intergenerational. It’s important to have a family plan.
…While parents may have made sacrifices for their happiness, it needs to be understood that children need to make decisions for their own happiness as well.
….The second problem in believing in the parental ultimate sacrifice is it means that any sacrifice their son or daughter makes will never compete with the original sacrifice. It becomes a competition of who has sacrificed more which leads to a lose lose situation